How to stand up for your worth when you're devalued
January 9, 2021 · 2 min read
Devaluation shows in actions: a partner is late, a friend forgets meetings, relatives don't take your problems seriously.
You can conclude you're being devalued from a person's actions: a partner is late for a date, a friend forgets meetings, relatives don't consider your problems serious.
3 ways to protect yourself from devaluation
1. Don't take it to heart
Don't blame yourself or give others' words undue weight. Sometimes devaluation can be turned into a joke — that way you defuse the situation.
2. Say directly that you don't like it
Don't stay silent about the hurt. It's not an easy path, but it's the right one if you want to keep communicating comfortably.
3. Set boundaries or distance
If you're not valued in the family, outline the topics for shared conversation. And if the devaluation is regular and unsolvable, sometimes it's best to end the relationship with someone for whom you're not a value.
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